Dating Advice Please

9 Jul

So today I’m going to blog about something different than chickens, cooking or DIY projects. It’s a topic that I need some help with too so please chip in some advice here. Image

So let me lay out the scenario. My friend, we’ll call her “Legs” to protect her privacy hit things off with a guy we’ll call “Studly” to protect his privacy. “Legs” and “Studly” met at a party we had this weekend to celebrate the 4th of July and ended up spending quite a lot of quality time together. They seemed to both be into each other but “Legs” was kinda quiet to me about it. Of course there was plenty of awkward time this weekend as many other party-goers gave lots of helpful advice to try to make matches with them so I decided to let it be and she’d talk to me when the time was right. 

So finally on her way home from the weekend “Legs” lets me know what’s up. She’s about 6 years older than “Studly” and she’s not sure how she feels about that. So I gave the scenario some thought (they’re both in their 20s and over age 21) and here is my take on the situation.

I think it’s fine (possibly even a really good idea) to date a younger guy!

Annnnddd here are my reasons why:

1. If he has his shit together (i.e. decent job, place to live, running vehicle, and a little $ in his pocket) and no baggage (i.e. crazy ex wives, children in 7 states, etc) this is a major BONUS (not to mention rare)! 

2. You can train him up to be a good partner. He’s not already set in his ways from living the bachelor life for years or spoiled by living in a long running relationship. Teach him how to run the dishwasher and fold socks!

3. You’re gonna get old first. Yay! He gets to change your Depends when you’re old and senile rather than the other way around!

4. He’s still fun! I used to have a chronic problem with dating older guys. I found that they’d already been there and tried most things and usually didn’t want to do them again. Take advantage of the youthful energy and enthusiasm and go have a blast! 

5. Better sex? I read from several sources that men hit their sexual peak at a younger age then women. So maybe dating a younger man is the way to go. Plus maybe without years and years of experience he might be more open to your coaching without hurting his well developed ego. 

6. After age 21 it’s all basically the same. You’ve got the same basic legal rights and obligations and it all just kinda blurs after that. 

7. If the situation were reversed and it were a guy dating a girl 6 years younger you would think it was no big deal.

So, my professional opinion is that she should give it a try and see if they are compatible and where it might go. What can you add to my logic or caution her of? Advice please! 🙂



3 Responses to “Dating Advice Please”

  1. Terror July 9, 2013 at 4:59 pm #

    1. Legs doesn’t look a day over Studly’s age. No one is going to know there’s an age difference unless she tells them. Keep using the sunscreen.

    2. Dating doesn’t mean you have to be with the person forever. Enjoy dating for what it is, not what it may or may not become.

    3. As someone who married WAY WAY outside my age bracket, I think, in retrospect, 5-6 years on either side of one’s age is ideal. Neither person falls into a child/parent roll, you still understand one another’s music, and you never have to explain that no you can’t remember where you were when Kennedy got shot because your parents hadn’t met yet.

    Go for it Legs!

  2. Michelle @ Life on the Horizon July 11, 2013 at 9:46 pm #

    As my mother (God bless her soul) would say: “It’s not like you’re getting married. He just asked you to dinner. Quit being such an old lady and enjoy yourself.” If you don’t do it for you, do it for the rest of us who cannot find quality men to date – of any age! GO LEGS GO! ~ XOXO RED

  3. Legs August 12, 2013 at 6:01 pm #

    So I went for it and it was great fun! He came to Alamo and we hung out and the next weekend he came to visit. Turned out he had to leve early Saturday afternoon and I haven’t red from him since? Granted it was a bery busy weekend on my part and I tried explaining it before he came but was reassured it wasn’t a issue… So far decided to focus on going back to school and getting my life a little more put together…

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